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Post by bluechica on Jan 1, 2015 22:55:15 GMT -6
Hey guys! I'm an 18 year old girl who's known she was gay since 7th grade and now I'm a senior in high school. Sometimes I just really want to be out to everyone you know? And sometimes I find myself in a situation where I think to myself "alright I'm ready I can be out" but then I just think of my cousins and my aunt who are for the most part judgmental and overall negative people and that stops me. Also, you how people have that one identifing quality? I don't want mine to be gay. Not because im not proud but because I don't want to be seen different once I come out.
What I'm trying to say is that I'm still me, the weirdo who likes to play piano and loves oreo and acts like a crazy person. Being gay is just this smaller part of me that affects my life in big ways. I guess I just want to know what's stopping you guys from being fully out? Are you partly out (few friends and relatives know) or trapped in the closet all the way? What are you guys most looking foward to when you're out to everyone? Much love guys (:
Ps. I'm partly out
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Post by Racheal Acuff on Jan 13, 2015 23:22:17 GMT -6
Hey!
Welcome to the forums! I'm glad that you have joined and I look forward to getting to know you better! I fully understand about having judgmental people in your family. Like you my aunt can't stand the fact that I have tattoos, piercings or that I even so much as look at someone who is gay much less be best friends with them. When you have people like that in your family your natural reaction is to slink back within yourself and hide, but my advice is come out when the time is right and come out proud! Love yourself and forget the haters! When you love yourself and hold your head up high the most amazing people will come into your life!
Much Love,
Rae**
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Post by Matt Stout on Jan 14, 2015 21:46:37 GMT -6
Welcome to the forums! I know all to well what it is like to have judgmental family, and friends. I spent many years dealing with coming out... or not coming out... coming out... or not coming out... I did not want to be seen as "different" or less of a person... I just wanted to be the same old me, and still have everyone love/like me just the way they always had.
You know what?? When I came out about 90% of the my friends loved me just the way they always had. Those who "judge me" quickly became not my friends, and that was what was best. Because it showed me who my real friends were. Also, if you are scared of disappointing your aunt or cousins, you just need to learn that your happiness comes before anyone else. They will always love you, and even if they get "hurt" or "angry" when you first come out, they will come around, and everything will be like it always was. (Trust me, happened between my mother and I when I came out.)
You are the same person now, as you will be once you do fully come out. The only difference is, you may lose a few fake friends, and you will have a huge weight lifted off of your shoulder because you will finally be able to be who you really are, and you will not feel like you are living a lie! I hope this helps a little, let me know if there is ever anything we can do to help!
~Matt
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