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Post by pixiexw on Nov 6, 2014 11:36:25 GMT -6
Hello, just decided to join up today. I am currently identifying as Demi sexual but I have a closer connection it seems towards people of the same sex. I have struggled with my sexuality for the last four years and have recently became involved with my best friend who is bisexual. I also suffer from adjustment disorder and other mental health issues which make it harder for me to get a grasp on what I actually think and feel rather than what would be the easiest option. My family are totally unaware of my orientation so far as are most of my friends so I'm looking for somewhere to get help with my self acceptance and hoped I'd be able to find my haven here.
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Post by Matt Stout on Nov 6, 2014 13:36:23 GMT -6
First off: Welcome to the forums! You will find this a great place to get advice, and guidance. Also, it is always a judgment free zone, so you never have to feel scared to share anything here.
As for your current situation, we all know how challenging it is when it comes time to deal with your sexuality, and I will tell you just like I tell everyone else. Do not focus so much on trying to find a label that fits you. Just do what feels natural... What makes you happy, and everything else will fall into place.
I challenge you today to take 2 hours out of your time and think about what you really want in a person. Not what gender you want, but what qualities you want. Example: Out going personality, or great sense of humor. Then when you are talking to people, and meeting new people keep those things in mind. When meeting a new person focus more on what is on the inside, than what is on the outside. Gender does not matter when it comes to finding the one you love.
When it comes to your family and friends being aware of what is going on. . . There is a period that everyone goes through when they themselves are trying to really figure out who they are. At this point there is no need to alert your friends, or family. Simply figure out what is best for you first, then you can fill them in.
I hope this helps a little!
~Matt
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Post by Racheal Acuff on Nov 8, 2014 23:10:52 GMT -6
Welcome to the forums! I completely agree with Matt, don't try to give yourself a label, you just be you and follow your heart. All of the answers will come in time and you will know when that time is when it is right. The same goes with family and friends, if you can't figure out what you want for yourself right now you are not in the proper place to tell anyone else anything, it's all about timing and you will know when the time is right. Keep your head up and stay strong! We are always here for you, don't hesitate to reach for anything!
Much Love,
Rae**
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