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Post by Regitze on May 11, 2014 2:07:12 GMT -6
My best friend, Sara, Is coming Next weekend and I think I'm ready to tell her...
I haven't told anybody that I think I'm bisexual, but me and Sara pretty much tell each other everything, so it's feel like I'm lying to her by holding it back.
I know she will understand and not judge, because she is just amazing like that, but I'm still scared...
I don't know how to say it, or when. Should I just say it when I pick her up at the train? Or should I wait until later? And what should I say? Should I just suddenly burst out with it?
and what if she thinks I might be in love with her? she has tried that before with another friend and she was so beat up about it, I don't want her to go through that again.
-Regitze
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Post by Matt Stout on May 11, 2014 3:28:31 GMT -6
Okay
... 1.) Do not be scared. You are who you are, so do not be afraid of that.
2.) She is your best friend. She is going to love you for who you are regardless.... and if she doesn't... then she was not actually your best friend.
3.) As for "when" I would start it off by talking about relationships, and then lead in to homosexual relationships, and eventually tell her about your sexual orientation.
HOWEVER with that being said, I it is important to remember that you are who you are... if she does not love you for that... then she is NOT the best friend you thought she was.
~Matt
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Post by Regitze on May 11, 2014 11:36:45 GMT -6
Thank you, I don't doubt whenever she will accept me as me or not, I'm more scared of how it will change our friendship and if she might think I'm in love with her (which I'm not).
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Post by sparklepenguin on May 11, 2014 12:39:27 GMT -6
When I told my best friend, it didn't change our friendship at all! I'm sure it won't with your friend and I don't think she'll assume that you're in love with her. It wouldn't be right for her to assume that you're in love with her just because you wanted to come out to her, because you're best friends. I first came out to one of my guy friends, but he didn't assume I was in love with him, he was just happy that I was able to come out to him because we were so close as friends.  Sorry if what I said sounds confusing. xD I tried to word it in the right way. |
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Post by Regitze on May 11, 2014 12:46:47 GMT -6
It doesn't sound confusing at all If I think rationally about It I think I know she wouldn't think that, it's just my damn brain who can't stop thinking about awful scenarios. Sent from my iPad using Tapatalk |
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Post by sparklepenguin on May 11, 2014 12:51:52 GMT -6
Thanks! Yeah, I'm sure if she is a true best friend then she will definitely not think that you're in love with her! I know what you mean, I always think of the worst scenario and I get myself worked up, but I just try my best to think positively! |
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Post by Regitze on May 11, 2014 12:55:37 GMT -6
Thanks Sent from my iPad using Tapatalk |
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Post by sparklepenguin on May 11, 2014 12:56:44 GMT -6
You're very welcome! I'll be around if you ever need anything! |
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Post by cynthia on May 13, 2014 10:44:23 GMT -6
I think you'll do fine when my best friend came out to me I was so happy for him. He asked me if I still loved and him and I said yes your like a brother to me. He's one of the few that I came out too. I didn't plan it it kinda just happened. It is scary because I haven't told my family exepct for my sister so I understand where you're coming from. I wish you the best keep up posted
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Post by Regitze on May 13, 2014 11:37:37 GMT -6
Thank you Don't swim in the mainstream. |
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