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Post by nathansimko on May 13, 2014 15:18:56 GMT -6
I know you've already had a lot of replies but I just want to offer my support. First time verbalizing your sexuality to someone is scary! However, this is your best friend and as long as you don't try to change that friendship dynamic she will support you! In fact each time you tell someone your bi/gay it gets easier. You will feel so much better once you've entrusted your friend with your secret.
I wish you the best and please let us know how everything goes.
We're here for you!!
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Post by Regitze on May 13, 2014 15:48:55 GMT -6
Thank you all for your advices and support  I really hope it goes well, either way I'll let you know Don't swim in the mainstream. |
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Post by Regitze on May 19, 2014 1:05:50 GMT -6
Two days ago I finally found the courage to tell Sara. We were at my old school, she was roller blading and I was on my wave board. We had just had a break were we sat in the grass and talked, I wanted to say it while we sat there cause I didn't think I would get another chance but I didn't seem right so I didn't... We got up started roller blading again we talked about some random things and out of the blue she asked me whenever I thought it was easier/better to be straight or asexual. I simply answered I don't know, you tell me your straight... She looked surprised and confused for like two seconds before asking if I was straight. I simply said no, and after a few seconds of silence I said, still on my wave board, Sara... And in that moment where i was about to say ...I'm bisexual, I fell almost landing flat on my butt, but I guess she heard it in my voice because the next thing she said was: are you bisexual... I said yes, got back up on my board, and we talked for a while mostly about asexuality, but she also asked about how I knew I was bi sexual. Thankfully it didn't seem like that big of a deal. After a while we went home and nothing had changed -Regitze (Sorry about the weirs sentences and such, it's hard to translate Danish.) |
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Post by Matt Stout on May 19, 2014 12:29:43 GMT -6
Awwww, I am so happy for you!! Glad you were able to finally tell her, and I am glad that it did not affect your friendship at all!!! That's the best part! Being able to be who you are, and still have people love you just like they always have!
~Matt
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Post by cynthia on May 20, 2014 9:16:59 GMT -6
Yay glad it worked out for you congrats
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Post by nathansimko on May 21, 2014 14:46:01 GMT -6
True friends will always have your back!! Her bringing up asexuality might be her trying to reach out to you about something she's going through? Since you didn't share specifics about what she said about asexuality I might be off base?
Glad everything worked out though!
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Post by Racheal Acuff on May 21, 2014 18:04:48 GMT -6
That's wonderful news! I am so glad it all worked out!
Much Love,
Rae**
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Post by Regitze on May 21, 2014 22:19:00 GMT -6
Thank you everyone, I'm so happy about it myself! True friends will always have your back!! Her bringing up asexuality might be her trying to reach out to you about something she's going through? Since you didn't share specifics about what she said about asexuality I might be off base? Glad everything worked out though! This is kind of typical for her, she notice something different in her life and she emetially thinks the "worst". She wasn't sure what it was she just knew it was about not wanting sex. We talked about for a while, mostly me explaining what it is and asking her enlightening questions. she used to joke that she wished she was gay (I'm still not sure what she actually meant by that), and she truly believe her ex-boyfriend is bi-sexual, she said that multiple times when they were still together, but I'm pretty sure this is because she is insecure about herself and had trouble believing why he would be with her. I think Sara just wants to be different but I don't know, either way I will be there supporting her, and helping her with figuring out what is real and what is her brain doing crazy turns, like I always do. What do you think? Cause normally I can pretty easily figure out what is going on in her head but this time I'm not sure. - Regitze |
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Post by nathansimko on May 22, 2014 3:51:23 GMT -6
Well just like you were looking for a way to tell her about your secret it sounds like she is looking for help from you! Sounds like she might not know a lot about sexuality that isn't standard male female dynamic.
She's questioning lack of interest in sex
Said she wishes she was a lesbian
Thinks her boyfriend is bisexual
That all sounds like her relationship is in a rut/trouble. That or a lot of past relationship pain she hasn't moved on from. Either way she sounds troubled and you should try and think about your conversations over the last few months. Look deeper into things she said that might have been dismissed too easily. Then call her and set up a coffee/lunch date. Casually bring up her relationship and let it go from there. Just support her and LISTEN!! She might tell you what's wrong in an indirect way.
Sorry I'm all over the place lol
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Post by Regitze on May 22, 2014 5:15:37 GMT -6
Yeah I should definitely talk her about this, I hadn't added all this together before writing it in here, but now it seems like there is something she is holding back,which is not like she normally tells me everything, everything meaning everything! Sometimes I think I know her better than I know me  She is not with her boyfriend anymore she broke it off half a year ago, they were each others first in every sense (god I wish I didn't know that!) We haven't seen each other that often since we started at new schools (she lives almost two hours away) so I might have missed a few signs  But I will definitely ask her to call me when I get home. Thank you for helping -Regitze Sent from my RM-846_eu_denmark_418 using Tapatalk |
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I really hope it goes well, either way I'll let you know 
