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My Story
Jun 20, 2014 20:00:38 GMT -6
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Post by JoshuaLush on Jun 20, 2014 20:00:38 GMT -6
Ok. So just a bit if advice. If you decide to come out. Make sure you plan it over time and don't do what I did and post it randomly on Facebook. It will cause huge missunderstandings. Also if you are having trouble with family or friends dealing with it. Don't be afraid to ask someone on here for help. They will know what to do.
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Post by Matt Stout on Jun 20, 2014 20:16:49 GMT -6
I did the same thing! Before actually telling everyone I changed my sexual orientation on Facebook... Apparently that was worse than just telling everyone. It was the end of the world. However, I agree. Do not be afraid to ask for help. People are here to help!
~Matt
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Post by dfwchris2 on Jun 20, 2014 23:06:01 GMT -6
I just recently moved to Hot Springs to recover from the death of my partner. He was the love of my life and we had 14 wonderful years together. I am probably much older than most of the folks in this forum but if that doesn't bother you it doesn't bother me. Jamie and I had a wonderful life together until he fell ill about 3 years ago. The doctors sucked and kept telling us he would be alright but he wasn't. He was the most beautiful soul you could have ever met and everyone he came in contact with always fell in love with him. I was so lucky that he ell in love with me. After his death I lost interest in our business and am in the process of selling it. I am currently writing a book about our time together and the failed medical system in the U.S. We were very active in politics together and my background before we met was in show business and so we were able to do some pretty amazing things together. I miss him dearly but I know I can't live in the past and move on with my life. I am in Arkansas because I grew up here and in East Texas so my family which is my only support system now is here. I was surprised to learn that Hoot Springs no longer has a gay bar and I am looking to change that. Gay people of both genders need a safe place to go play and build social networks. I saw Matt in Twitter and was intrigued so here I am. Thanks for letting me share my story.
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Post by n8vdude on Jun 21, 2014 8:46:48 GMT -6
I just recently moved to Hot Springs to recover from the death of my partner. He was the love of my life and we had 14 wonderful years together. I am probably much older than most of the folks in this forum but if that doesn't bother you it doesn't bother me. Jamie and I had a wonderful life together until he fell ill about 3 years ago. The doctors sucked and kept telling us he would be alright but he wasn't. He was the most beautiful soul you could have ever met and everyone he came in contact with always fell in love with him. I was so lucky that he ell in love with me. After his death I lost interest in our business and am in the process of selling it. I am currently writing a book about our time together and the failed medical system in the U.S. We were very active in politics together and my background before we met was in show business and so we were able to do some pretty amazing things together. I miss him dearly but I know I can't live in the past and move on with my life. I am in Arkansas because I grew up here and in East Texas so my family which is my only support system now is here. I was surprised to learn that Hoot Springs no longer has a gay bar and I am looking to change that. Gay people of both genders need a safe place to go play and build social networks. I saw Matt in Twitter and was intrigued so here I am. Thanks for letting me share my story. Heya dfwchris2 - Like you I am one of the older members here (I reach 50 on Aug 2nd - and brother, I never thought I'd write that sentence about myself!!!). I've been with my husband (now legal since 2008) for over 20 years. I can't imagine my life without him (wouldn't want to). So I feel very deeply and profoundly for what you've had to go through. As an author (though I am in Gay Lit Fic) I am putting it out there to help in any way I can with either emotional support (writing is so cathartic (regardless of the genre) and at times can be merciless in that you are quite vulnerable - you can't help it, it's the nature of the process), a writer's cheerleading section (I can be a GREAT emotive booster for other writers - or well, people in general), or whatever. Maybe even a beta reader to help as a touchstone if what you're writing is getting the message out that you are trying to get out there. You can always reach out to me (I swear on just about anything... nothing is sacred in my book) @sacollinsauthor (twitter) or sacollins@sacollins.com (my nom de plume) as those are the accounts I monitor the most. If there is anything I can offer in way of support - feel free to ping me about it at either contact above. I am 'all ears'... All my best, Will |
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Post by Racheal Acuff on Jun 21, 2014 21:52:05 GMT -6
I just recently moved to Hot Springs to recover from the death of my partner. He was the love of my life and we had 14 wonderful years together. I am probably much older than most of the folks in this forum but if that doesn't bother you it doesn't bother me. Jamie and I had a wonderful life together until he fell ill about 3 years ago. The doctors sucked and kept telling us he would be alright but he wasn't. He was the most beautiful soul you could have ever met and everyone he came in contact with always fell in love with him. I was so lucky that he ell in love with me. After his death I lost interest in our business and am in the process of selling it. I am currently writing a book about our time together and the failed medical system in the U.S. We were very active in politics together and my background before we met was in show business and so we were able to do some pretty amazing things together. I miss him dearly but I know I can't live in the past and move on with my life. I am in Arkansas because I grew up here and in East Texas so my family which is my only support system now is here. I was surprised to learn that Hoot Springs no longer has a gay bar and I am looking to change that. Gay people of both genders need a safe place to go play and build social networks. I saw Matt in Twitter and was intrigued so here I am. Thanks for letting me share my story. First off welcome to the Forums! Secondly I am so terribly sorry for your loss, I can't imagine what I would do if I lost my love. I have to agree the health system in this country is failing terribly and there is so much that needs to be done to improve it. I am so glad you joined the forums and shared you story. I think it is wonderful that your writing a book and sharing your and Jamie's story. I also think it is a wonderful idea that you have a plan to open a gay bar in Hot Springs, I think it is awesome that you want to give members of the LGBT community there a safe place to hang out and make friends! Please let us know if you need anything, Matt and I are always available 24/7! Much Love, Rae** |
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Post by Matt Stout on Jun 21, 2014 22:18:22 GMT -6
I just recently moved to Hot Springs to recover from the death of my partner. He was the love of my life and we had 14 wonderful years together. I am probably much older than most of the folks in this forum but if that doesn't bother you it doesn't bother me. Jamie and I had a wonderful life together until he fell ill about 3 years ago. The doctors sucked and kept telling us he would be alright but he wasn't. He was the most beautiful soul you could have ever met and everyone he came in contact with always fell in love with him. I was so lucky that he ell in love with me. After his death I lost interest in our business and am in the process of selling it. I am currently writing a book about our time together and the failed medical system in the U.S. We were very active in politics together and my background before we met was in show business and so we were able to do some pretty amazing things together. I miss him dearly but I know I can't live in the past and move on with my life. I am in Arkansas because I grew up here and in East Texas so my family which is my only support system now is here. I was surprised to learn that Hoot Springs no longer has a gay bar and I am looking to change that. Gay people of both genders need a safe place to go play and build social networks. I saw Matt in Twitter and was intrigued so here I am. Thanks for letting me share my story. Oh no. I am so sorry to hear about Jamie. That is awful. I can not even imagine, and my heart goes out to you for having to go through this.  I hope that you moving back close to family will be of great use to you, and it will help you make it through this difficult time. I am glad you found us, we are always here to help, and we are always willing to listen if you need someone to talk to! Let me know if there is ever anything you need! ~Matt |
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Post by goodcharlie97 on Jun 25, 2014 20:28:52 GMT -6
Here's my story
Born in a small family,my father a criminal and my mother is one of the few woman I really care about.When I was 11 I was put in foster care.A few years ago I got legal guardians.I'm not gay I just support equality.that's it in an nutshell.
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Post by Racheal Acuff on Jun 25, 2014 20:35:10 GMT -6
Here's my story Born in a small family,my father a criminal and my mother is one of the few woman I really care about.When I was 11 I was put in foster care.A few years ago I got legal guardians.I'm not gay I just support equality.that's it in an nutshell. First off welcome to the forums! We are so glad that you created an account and joined! We LOVE meeting new people and hearing their story! I think it is wonderful that your standing up as another voice in the fight for equality! Please let us know if we can be of any assistance to you! I look forward to getting to know you better! Much Love, Rae** |
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Post by NorthernWolf (Mike) on Jun 28, 2014 15:19:06 GMT -6
Ok. So just a bit if advice. If you decide to come out. Make sure you plan it over time and don't do what I did and post it randomly on Facebook. It will cause huge missunderstandings. Also if you are having trouble with family or friends dealing with it. Don't be afraid to ask someone on here for help. They will know what to do. Also and don't let someone else out you. I worked in a large corp office and always ate lunch with a group of ladies every day in the caferteria, which ususally had 40-50 people in it at all times. We were sitting there one day and out of the blue a "good" friend blurted out not so quietly, "Michael are you Gay???" OMG..........I didn't know what to say or do. I recall trembling and I felt tears getting ready to let loose so I grabbed my food tray and shot out of there. I went to my manager and asked if I could go home and he could sense something was wrong and let me leave right away. I cried all the way home and just laid on the couch. I knew I had to go back to work the next day and face every one so I sat and emailed each of them why all that happened. Everyone was so understanding and sorry for what happened. So in hindsight, you never know how things will be received, but to get blown out of the water like that with other tables of people in the cafeteria looking over because of what they heard my friend blurt out was too much. My heart still pounds thinking back to that day. |
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I hope that you moving back close to family will be of great use to you, and it will help you make it through this difficult time. I am glad you found us, we are always here to help, and we are always willing to listen if you need someone to talk to! Let me know if there is ever anything you need!
