Regitze
My voice will be heard
Hejsa og velkommen
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Post by Regitze on Aug 27, 2014 14:14:33 GMT -6
A few weeks ago I started at a new boarding school here in Denmark, which means new people and a fresh start I haven't told anybody yet that I'm Bisexual, but I don't think that most people here would find it a problem, so that's something. I've made quite a lot of new friends here, but I don't know if I should tell them, or if I should just let them draw their own conclusions. And something else, I think I got my first proper crush, which might be on the most impractical person on the boarding school... Firstly, it's his final year on the school and he lives in the other end of the country. Secondly, he is technically(don't know if that's the right word) still a girl, he will start his hormone treatment in a few month that will turn him into a boy. I don't have a problem with it, but it's bad timing, and it sort of makes me question myself and my sexuality. And thirdly, he didn't say this directly to me but we were sitting in the same group when he said it. He said, I don't have any preferences, but I'm mostly into boys, and then he looked directly at me! I'm a girl, but a boyish one. I have no idea if I should pursue this, or if I should try and forget him. I really want to try and pursue this, but I have absolutely no idea how? -Regitze - Regitze
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Post by Matt Stout on Sept 1, 2014 22:48:35 GMT -6
First off, Congrats on the new school! A fresh start is always amazing! As for letting people find out about your sexuality. I would let them draw their own conclusions. If the topic comes up be real with them, and tell them the truth, however if no one is saying anything about it, I see no need to explain it. Just wait for the topic to come up, then address it. However, if they truly are your friends the topic may never come up, because it simply does not matter. Who you like, and who you are attracted to will not matter to them! Congrats on your first crush! It may not be as impractical as you may think. It is his last year there, however it could be an amazing year! That is a lot of time to get to spend with someone, and get to know them. If he does have to move to the other end of the country, that's not always a bad thing. Long distance relationships are possible, especially if you grow super close to each other over the course of a year. "Secondly, he is technically(don't know if that's the right word) still a girl, he will start his hormone treatment in a few month that will turn him into a boy. I don't have a problem with it, but it's bad timing, and it sort of makes me question myself and my sexuality. And thirdly, he didn't say this directly to me but we were sitting in the same group when he said it. He said, I don't have any preferences, but I'm mostly into boys, and then he looked directly at me! I'm a girl, but a boyish one." --- NEVER. I repeat NEVER let anything EVER make you question your sexuality. Timing may not be picture perfect, but you can always work through obstacles like bad timing. Just because you over heard him say he is more into boys does not mean anything. He could have simply said that to try and make those around him happy. It could have been a lie, then again it could be true. However he said "Mostly" So that means there is still a chance. Don't give up, and follow your heart! ~Matt
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Regitze
My voice will be heard
Hejsa og velkommen
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Post by Regitze on Sept 7, 2014 1:50:14 GMT -6
Thank you so much for your advice, I hope I find the courage to do something about it And I think you are completely right about letting people draw their own conclusions, I don't know why I didn't think of that. -Regitze
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