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Post by adam on Dec 25, 2014 1:44:47 GMT -6
I wish your dream to come true from the bottom of my heart! But you need to be sure that you are ready to be a parent. I don't mean moral side. 7 years is enough time to prepare morally. What about finance? Money is not the most important aspect in bringing up children, but you still need enough money to give your child everything he\she needs
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Post by johnb on Dec 26, 2014 1:50:59 GMT -6
I understand, that children require money. A lot of mone. Of course, I cannot say, that I'm a very rich person. I think, nobody can say so in our modern world, where crisis spreads faster and faster. But I'm financially stable, I have my business, my partner is also working. We have a big light house. I'm sure, that our child will have no need in anything!
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Post by adam on Dec 29, 2014 1:31:21 GMT -6
Both of you are working, aren't you? But don't you understand, that when your child is born, at least one of you will have to leave his work to stay with a child and to care about him until he goes to a kindergarten (3-4 years)?
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Post by johnb on Dec 30, 2014 1:27:09 GMT -6
I understand it. I know, that a child will need all my time and attention. My partner cannot leave his work, because he can easily lose it. And as for me, I have already said, that have my own business. I don't need to stay at office 24\7. My job allows me to work at home
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Post by adam on Jan 5, 2015 1:11:32 GMT -6
But you were absolutely right saying that a child will require ALL your time and attention, specially when a child is so small. Working at home may be not enough. You must be ready, that one of you will work and the other one will completely devote himself to a baby.
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Post by johnb on Jan 6, 2015 1:15:57 GMT -6
I don't know yet, whether I'm ready to leave my business. I built it for many years. But a child is a dream of my whole life. I think, there must be some compromise. I'll have to balance between family and work. Maybe I'll need some help of a nanny.
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Post by adam on Jan 12, 2015 1:13:01 GMT -6
Maybe. It is your life and you will have to decide by yourself what is more important for you and how to find a balance. But I think, that if one decides to have kids, he does it not for somebody else to care about them.
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Post by Matt Stout on Jan 12, 2015 20:42:21 GMT -6
After reading through the post in this thread, I just wanted to throw this out there, but I am so happy to see you two being able to have a conversation and actually provide each other with some advice, and support. This is why I created these forums! I wanted you all to have a place to talk, and get advice, and support! So, what I really want to say is thank you. Thank you for being there for each other, and trying to help each other!
~Matt
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Post by Racheal Acuff on Jan 12, 2015 23:07:54 GMT -6
Adam,
I am a mother and I know how the desire to have children can be overwhelming, Had Matt and his partner decided that they wanted children I was fully prepared to carry that baby for them and make their dream come true, however they prefer to be parents to cats and I am fully ok with being an aunt to cats! (Matt is my best friend) My best advice for you is to possibly consider a surrogate to carry the baby and get an egg donor, or private adoption, where the birth mother chooses you from a home book that you and your partner create. I know some birth mothers actually prefer same sex couples as they then know that their baby will be raised in a home where diversity and acceptance will be welcomed and embraced. I hope that your dreams of becoming parent comes true. If you need anything else please let me know! I will help you in any way possible!
Much love,
Rae**
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Post by adam on Jan 13, 2015 1:47:14 GMT -6
Thank you very much. Rae))))) Yes, my partner and I have a huge desire to be parents not only for our cat))) We know, that there are 2 variants for us - surrogacy and adoption. And now we are trying to find out the pros and cons of each of these variants and to choose the most acceptable one.
Thank you once again,
Adam
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