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Post by shygoesrawr on Dec 12, 2014 5:08:13 GMT -6
I've known I like girls and boys since age 11. I've nevr felt the need to talk about it, or come out. I never know what to label myself as. I feel wrong saying that I'm bisexual or pansexual and I don't know why. Everyone else in the world could say it and I wouldn't care. Like I would accept them but I can't accept myself? I just don't know. I'm dating a boy, and I love him but if we ever broke up I don't know if I would want to be with guys anymore. I keep imagining dating girls and I don't imagine boys anymore. I don't know what that means. And I keep staying up late wondering if maybe I'm gay and if my boyfriend is the only exception to that or if I'm just confused or if im just being dramatic and I don't know how to feel anymore. I don't know what I'm supposed to be labeled as and I'm just confused.
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Post by felicity on Dec 13, 2014 20:14:09 GMT -6
How old are you now? Take it easy. As said, this is judgement free.
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Post by shygoesrawr on Dec 14, 2014 1:46:58 GMT -6
I'm 17, so 6 years from then.
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Regitze
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Post by Regitze on Dec 14, 2014 2:02:00 GMT -6
Nobody is supposed to be labeled anything, you chose your label or if you want a label at all. We (I'm 18) are young and free right now, its the time to experiment and just follow your heart without thinking too much on labels.
When I come out to people I either tell them that I'm bi- or pansexual depending on how in lighted I think they are, but I don't completely identify as either. I just want them to know that I like girls too.
I hope this wasn't too much of a ramble
-Regitze
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Post by mouthofkeys on Dec 27, 2014 20:29:53 GMT -6
Why would it be hard to accept if you are 'whatever'? Maybe you should try to find some stories of people that have found out they are 'something' and hear about how it went for them? They have some cool stories anyway.
I was at a point in my life that made me start to wonder what my sexuality is and I think I have an idea how you felt. I was stressed out about it, but eventually I decided that I'm just going to have to be who I am. I felt a lot better and deciding what my sexuality was turned out to be easy after that. The real problem was already fixed by that point. I sometimes wonder if I would be as happy if I had figured it out before I thought about being ok with who I am. Does that help?
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Post by harupoppo on Jan 10, 2015 20:57:39 GMT -6
Ever heard that sexuality is a spectrum? You fall somewhere on it but you don't have to label yourself. Date people you like because you like them. If somebody asks what you are just reply with what feels most natural to you whether its gay/bi/pan/i dunno/or "none of your business random person"
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Post by Matt Stout on Jan 12, 2015 21:01:03 GMT -6
I've known I like girls and boys since age 11. I've nevr felt the need to talk about it, or come out. I never know what to label myself as. I feel wrong saying that I'm bisexual or pansexual and I don't know why. Everyone else in the world could say it and I wouldn't care. Like I would accept them but I can't accept myself? I just don't know. I'm dating a boy, and I love him but if we ever broke up I don't know if I would want to be with guys anymore. I keep imagining dating girls and I don't imagine boys anymore. I don't know what that means. And I keep staying up late wondering if maybe I'm gay and if my boyfriend is the only exception to that or if I'm just confused or if im just being dramatic and I don't know how to feel anymore. I don't know what I'm supposed to be labeled as and I'm just confused. First off I apologize for the late response. The holidays had me really busy, and I am just now getting back to my normal schedule. Second: Don't worry about labeling yourself. Labels are for clothes, not people. You just live your life however makes you happy, and do not try to fit into the mold of a label. I know that when I was coming to terms with my sexuality I went through the same thing. It wasn't until I was 17, my senior year of high school that I was finally able to identify myself as who I was, and accept myself for who I am. You are still young in life, and it is okay for you to want to date girls, and not date boys again. You have a long life ahead of you and you have a lot of time to figure out who you are. Just take it one day at a time, and live in the moment. Don't worry about what is to come, just live your life to make you happy. I hope this helps a little. Trust me what you are going through is very normal! It is something almost everyone goes through! It will get easier in time! Let me know if there is ever anything we can do to help! ~Matt |
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