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Post by fraggleidk on Dec 29, 2014 10:36:28 GMT -6
Hey I'm new. Here's my story. I'm a 22 year old female. I've been interested in both sexes for as long as I can remember. I kissed a girl before I ever kissed a boy. Most of the time I don't dress girly but I don't wear boys clothes either, just less feminine clothes than the average girl my age. I do wear makeup and I like stuff that girls my age like. I've had several boyfriends and I've had a few "things" with girls but never really a proper relationship. I've been in love once and it was with a girl. Recently I've started to lose interest in guys, whenever I get into a relationship with one my heart just isn't in it. I'm not interested in being intimate with guys anymore what so ever and I'm starting to worry. Whenever I have feelings for someone these days it's usually females. I feel like by this age I should probably know if I'm gay or not but I don't. Can anyone give me some advice on this?
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Post by mouthofkeys on Dec 29, 2014 13:31:24 GMT -6
Probably not me. Sorry I've never been in a situation like that so I don't know how helpful I can be, but maybe I can at least help you talk it out?
Sexuality isn't always easy. Some people always know. Some people realize at 50 after they have 3 kids. I don't think you should feel like you "should" anything. Everyone is different. What is it your are worried about?
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Post by Idkfraggle on Dec 30, 2014 7:18:14 GMT -6
Probably not me. Sorry I've never been in a situation like that so I don't know how helpful I can be, but maybe I can at least help you talk it out? Sexuality isn't always easy. Some people always know. Some people realize at 50 after they have 3 kids. I don't think you should feel like you "should" anything. Everyone is different. What is it your are worried about? hey thanks for replying. I'm not worried about being "gay" as such. I just wish I knew who I was. Like I don't want to come out as gay if I'm not entirely sure of it. At this point I definitely like girls more than guys but is that because I'm gay or is it just the simple fact that I haven't found the right guy, you know? |
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Post by mouthofkeys on Dec 30, 2014 8:55:58 GMT -6
From what I've heard there aren't a lot of people that are lucky enough to fall into strict technical labels of sexuality. Words are only useful if they help you describe something. If you want to come out as something come out as 'what you are' and if saying the word "gay" helps you explain what you want to explain then use it.
I don't have any idea how to help you find out who you are though. I think that's just the kind of thing you have to reflect on and experiment with, right?
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Post by Matt Stout on Jan 18, 2015 13:04:45 GMT -6
Hey I'm new. Here's my story. I'm a 22 year old female. I've been interested in both sexes for as long as I can remember. I kissed a girl before I ever kissed a boy. Most of the time I don't dress girly but I don't wear boys clothes either, just less feminine clothes than the average girl my age. I do wear makeup and I like stuff that girls my age like. I've had several boyfriends and I've had a few "things" with girls but never really a proper relationship. I've been in love once and it was with a girl. Recently I've started to lose interest in guys, whenever I get into a relationship with one my heart just isn't in it. I'm not interested in being intimate with guys anymore what so ever and I'm starting to worry. Whenever I have feelings for someone these days it's usually females. I feel like by this age I should probably know if I'm gay or not but I don't. Can anyone give me some advice on this? From what you are saying, to me it seems like you are finally coming to terms with your sexuality. This is something that can take people years. Some are lucky enough to have it happen at a young age, while some spend their entire life trying to figure out who they really are. There are people who die from old age who still have not figured out who they really are. Don't worry about what "label" you fall under, just be yourself, and follow your heart. You said you haven't really proper relationship with a girl. Well it's time for you to try it! You may find that when you are in a relationship with a girl everything just feels right. I know when I was trying to figure out who I was in life, I had several relationships with girls, and it just never felt right. Once I had my first real relationship with a guy, I knew that was what I was missing my entire life. I feel more complete with a guy, than I ever did with a girl. So, hopefully in all that I just said you can find something that will help you! Let me know if there is anything we can do to help! Let us know how things go as you move forward! ~Matt |
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