Post by JayEllCee12 on Feb 9, 2015 16:22:05 GMT -6
Hi people,
So I'm crushing really hard on this girl on the same course as me at my uni. It was just a little crush when it started in November 2013, but now I genuinely want to be with her, and would love her to be my first girlfriend (hell, my first relationship). But my problem is that we're not very close: sure, we're in a handful of classes together, but I hardly ever get to sit by her; she has her own friends, I have mine (and unfortunately we have to sit in the same place every week). So when I try to meet up with her outside of classes, there's just no communication: she's a very slow/late replier to texts, fb messages e.t.c, and this really infuriates me as a very active online messenger and texter (she doesn't do it on purpose, she's far too nice to do that). I don't want to keep pestering her to meet up, because she could get freaked out, but I just want her to know that I'm eager to spend more time with her. We've barely had any time alone together: the last time we were alone was 9 months ago. We had a chance to be alone together in October last year, but someone decided to come along with us (I'm meeting her this Wednesday, let's hope the same thing doesn't happen again!). I don't even know if she's interested in girls/interested in anyone/interested in me, so I haven't been too forward with flirting, if any; she's a very shy, quiet person anyway, so I have no idea what she's thinking. As I said, this would be my first relationship: I have no experience of anyone being interested in me, so I have no clue if what I'm doing is normal. I don't know how to flirt, give hints e.t.c., and I certainly don't know how to tell if someone's interested in me. But one thing's for sure: this is my first real crush on a girl, and it feels so much different to my crushes on boys...and I've crushed on girls before. Perhaps it's because this girl might be my first crush who's single, that I don't know is taken (yet), so I feel like I have a chance with her, and that makes me happy, in my horribly idealistic mind. When I've had to get over all the taken boys, it was a struggle, but it happened - with this girl, I think it'll be different.
I was just wondering if anyone has any advice on what I should do? Should I just give up on her because we're not close enough, and there's no way for us to get closer? How do I stay friends with her after I'm rejected? How the hell does dating and relationships work?? If anyone has advice, I'd be very grateful, thanks.
So I'm crushing really hard on this girl on the same course as me at my uni. It was just a little crush when it started in November 2013, but now I genuinely want to be with her, and would love her to be my first girlfriend (hell, my first relationship). But my problem is that we're not very close: sure, we're in a handful of classes together, but I hardly ever get to sit by her; she has her own friends, I have mine (and unfortunately we have to sit in the same place every week). So when I try to meet up with her outside of classes, there's just no communication: she's a very slow/late replier to texts, fb messages e.t.c, and this really infuriates me as a very active online messenger and texter (she doesn't do it on purpose, she's far too nice to do that). I don't want to keep pestering her to meet up, because she could get freaked out, but I just want her to know that I'm eager to spend more time with her. We've barely had any time alone together: the last time we were alone was 9 months ago. We had a chance to be alone together in October last year, but someone decided to come along with us (I'm meeting her this Wednesday, let's hope the same thing doesn't happen again!). I don't even know if she's interested in girls/interested in anyone/interested in me, so I haven't been too forward with flirting, if any; she's a very shy, quiet person anyway, so I have no idea what she's thinking. As I said, this would be my first relationship: I have no experience of anyone being interested in me, so I have no clue if what I'm doing is normal. I don't know how to flirt, give hints e.t.c., and I certainly don't know how to tell if someone's interested in me. But one thing's for sure: this is my first real crush on a girl, and it feels so much different to my crushes on boys...and I've crushed on girls before. Perhaps it's because this girl might be my first crush who's single, that I don't know is taken (yet), so I feel like I have a chance with her, and that makes me happy, in my horribly idealistic mind. When I've had to get over all the taken boys, it was a struggle, but it happened - with this girl, I think it'll be different.
I was just wondering if anyone has any advice on what I should do? Should I just give up on her because we're not close enough, and there's no way for us to get closer? How do I stay friends with her after I'm rejected? How the hell does dating and relationships work?? If anyone has advice, I'd be very grateful, thanks.