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Feb 18, 2015 2:05:53 GMT -6
Post by JP on Feb 18, 2015 2:05:53 GMT -6
Hey, so I've been trying to figure this out for months now and still don't know what I am or what to do. I've always known I'm not a normal man. This was reinforced after realizing every single woman I've dated has been bi-sexual and my best friend, someone I liked previously, is a fem lesbian. I've tried to define myself for a long time now and am very comfortable with it (thanks in large part to my best friend and I discovering our sexuality together), but I don't know what that definition is or what to do. The closest mainstream definition I've found is pansexual, sapiosexual, and homoflexible. (I am attracted to some men romantically, but not sexually. I tried once and my body just isn't attracted. I was very disappointed because I really really like this one guy romantically. However, I digress) The best, yet controversial, definition is I'm a male lesbian. I have always felt closest to women and obviously am only attracted to bi-sexual and lesbian women. I'm really not attracted to very many straight women at all. So, I guess what I'm trying to say is what can or should I define myself as and what should I do? I'm fine with coming out, I've almost said told many people already including my dad, but I don't know what to tell myself or know how to find people I can date who are attracted to me for my gender. (I have fallen for so many lesbians I need a better strategy than "asking someone on a date.") Please help, and thank you.
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Feb 18, 2015 2:19:11 GMT -6
Post by JP on Feb 18, 2015 2:19:11 GMT -6
My last post had some errors:
My mainstream definition is pansexual, sapiosexual, heteroflexible.
I've already told many people including my dad, but I don't know what to tell myself...
Thank you again.
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Mar 2, 2015 15:26:08 GMT -6
Post by SmallTownGirl on Mar 2, 2015 15:26:08 GMT -6
Hi I'm a straight 18 year old female but I need advice in the sense that my father hates gay people
and sees them as less of a person. I try to practise acceptance and understanding in everything I do
but I cannot accept my father's hate. Can anyone please give advice on how to change his mindset or at least on how
I can deal with it. Shall I just continue to fight with him tooth and nail everytime? All it seems to do is alienate or relationship further.
I just didn't know where else to go with this problem. Acceptance and love don't seem to a big thing in my small town.
Sorry for the long post I just wanted some advice and maybe let people know that even though I was raised by this homophobic father of mine
I never once saw a gay person as less of a human being but rather a person that needed extra love and hugs from people like my father.
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Apr 12, 2015 4:11:37 GMT -6
Post by jakea29 on Apr 12, 2015 4:11:37 GMT -6
hi again! i just wanted to start off by saying THANK YOU for your previous advise it realy helped me get myselfout of a bad situation. so, i have a boyfriend. we have been dating for a little while now and people found out. hes not FULLY out of the closet. and neither am i fully out. the other day, we kissed. and i thought i wouldnt know what to say but inside i felt like for the first time in a while, im hgappy. i felt like he melt me from the inside out. and a couple days before that he said he loved me as like a way of saying "your so adorable i love you for that" and after the kiss, i said "i love you" and he said he loves me to. my issue here is if i said it just to say it or because i feel it. i feel like he moves me in ways i cant understand. like every day with him is an adventure like im on a ride to a love story. and when i think of him i see stars. so how do i truly know what ium feeling?
thanks
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Post by unpredictable on May 3, 2015 16:56:01 GMT -6
Hi, You can call me unpredictable and I am 14 years in age. I've started to have crushes to girls when I was on grade 3, well I'm a girl too.. Until I grow up being shy to show who really I am. Maybe one reason of this is because I lived in Philippines wherein homosexuals are underestimated and discriminated. Until I've reached 12 years old, when I first met my first love. We get into 'up and down' relationship upto present. I've lost my friends and trust of my teachers because they are disagree about my gender and they always tried to break us. Well, we love each other so me remain strong but today I can't feel her love but she always says she love me and when we are arguing she is crying. Maybe because she has lack of efforts in proving that she really loves me. Her mother, auntie edna is really strict and she rejected me many times but last month she started to give me opportunity. She didn't say literally but I can feel from her actions.
At the very young age, I know I've been trapped in a wrong body and I want to have my own body someday. But another problem is, I don't know how to express myself to others and how will I tell to my mom about my gender.
Will anyone can help me about this? I'm really tired.
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molly911
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13 and not sure of my sexual orientation. Not bi-curious for sure
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May 7, 2015 16:36:26 GMT -6
Post by molly911 on May 7, 2015 16:36:26 GMT -6
So, I am not sure of my sexual orientation. I am only 13, but had crushes on girls since I was in 4TH grade. In the locker room, I stare at them. I am a tomboy. And butterflies fly in my stomach when a girl smiles at me(unless it is my friendly best friend) or touches me. I am not sexually attracted to boys, and have fantasies of girls only, especially my crush. I feel different when my friends talk about boys or gayness, so am I lesbian or just curious? Like I said, I am not sexually attracted to boys, only girls. Could my sexual orientation change? Hormones? I know that I shouldn't label myself, but I need to know, in my opinion I do.
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