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Post by itzsebass on Feb 25, 2015 0:00:56 GMT -6
Hi everybody, I'm Sebastian and I'm 14..I really like guys and wanted a boyfriend soo badly, yet no gay guys my age live in/near my community. Anyways I started searching online and found this really nice guy named Dean and his family knows he's gay and knows what I look like..mine doesn't. I want them to know but how would I tell them I'm gay in the first place?
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Post by tryingtohelp on May 15, 2015 21:36:51 GMT -6
Hey Sebastian,
I recently came out and it is difficult. It is always going to be hard no matter what. Number 1, try to find a good place and time. Number 2, make sure to be sensitive to their feelings (especially if they're against LGBT people). Number 3, just breathe and don't be nervous. It feels better to come out, I promise.
Good luck.
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Post by Matt Stout on May 24, 2015 11:03:20 GMT -6
Hi everybody, I'm Sebastian and I'm 14..I really like guys and wanted a boyfriend soo badly, yet no gay guys my age live in/near my community. Anyways I started searching online and found this really nice guy named Dean and his family knows he's gay and knows what I look like..mine doesn't. I want them to know but how would I tell them I'm gay in the first place? Hey Sebastian, welcome to the forums! First off, please be VERY careful with who you meat online. Honestly. There are a lot of people out there who misrepresent themselves, and lie about who they are. I'm not saying that Dean is that way, I am just asking you to be careful. Just because you really want a boyfriend, does not mean you need to let your guard down, and just fall for the first person who will talk to you. (Not trying to sound harsh, I have been in your situation before, and I have been burned a lot. I have learned a lot of things the hard way, and I am just trying to prevent you from doing the same.) As for telling your parents... I am not sure how your parents are with people being "gay." When I told my mother I lost everything. I got kicked out of my house, had my car taken away... A lot of things negative happened just because I told my mother who I really was. So with that being said, and given your age be very careful when approaching your parents about it. You don't want to end up losing what you do have. Maybe casually bring up some "gay" topics such as marriage equality or things like that and see how they react. If they do not react negatively then go ahead and tell them that you are gay. If they react negativity to the topic hold off on telling them that you are gay until you are a little older. I am not a fan of people not being able to be who they really are, but when it comes to parents, and young individuals, you have to do what is best for your well being, and some times you have to wait to tell them. I hope this helps a little. Let me know if there is ever anything we can do to help. ~Matt |
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