Post by ghostwriter on Mar 18, 2015 17:11:32 GMT -6
Hi Folks,
So I have this straight friend who has always been giving me these vibes that she "liked" me. She's always made suggestive remarks towards me, always telling me that I'm beautiful. She could barely keep her hands or eyes off me, especially when drunk. Well a few weeks ago we were out and she got really drunk. She told me that she really loved me, she would turn lesbian for me, I was the perfect person, she wanted to be with me and kissed me on the lips. We're both straight and have only ever dated guys.
This confused me & it was like a switch went on in my head. I couldn't stop thinking about it and realized that I have feelings for her. I mulled over this for a few days and decided to confront her about it. I told her that I loved her too. Her response was that she didn't mean it that way, she likes boys and she only loves me as a friend. This had my head in a spin, as I was sure she had confessed her love to me that night. She looked very sincere when she said it.
I left it a few days & stupidly sent an angry text to her, telling her that she'd fucked my head up & broke my heart & that I never wanted to see her again & to stay the away from me. She responded & said that she didn't realize that I felt that way about her. She's sorry, but she's not going to tell me she loves me if she doesn't feel that way, but I'll always be her friend & when i feel better I should contact her.
Well I gave it another few days & dug the hole deeper, by telling her that I don't believe what she had said to me. I had saw the way she looked at me, the vibes and all her comments & that she did mean what she said that night, she's just running scared now. I should say, she has asked me twice when she was drunk to f=go back to her apartment, which i declined. She's always been very flirty with me, so I don't get why she would act like this towards me drunk then when she's sober say that she only sees me as a friend.
I now feel completely foolish & embarrassed. She has said that we should still be friends, but for now we need time apart, which I agreed to. I respect her wishes. If she just sees me as a friend then fair enough, but could anyone explain to me what she could have meant when she said that she really loved me, I was the perfect person, she'd turn lesbian for me and she wants to be with me? I'm struggling to understand what she meant by that. She just keeps saying she didn't mean it that way, but is there another way she could have meant that?
The problem is, I still really want to be friends with her, but now it just seems impossible. I know the best thing to do is to not contact her again and let the dust settle, but deep down i know that this friendship is over and I can't help, but feel responsible for it. I should never have said anything to her, but I just needed to know what she meant by that. Can anyobne help me out?
So I have this straight friend who has always been giving me these vibes that she "liked" me. She's always made suggestive remarks towards me, always telling me that I'm beautiful. She could barely keep her hands or eyes off me, especially when drunk. Well a few weeks ago we were out and she got really drunk. She told me that she really loved me, she would turn lesbian for me, I was the perfect person, she wanted to be with me and kissed me on the lips. We're both straight and have only ever dated guys.
This confused me & it was like a switch went on in my head. I couldn't stop thinking about it and realized that I have feelings for her. I mulled over this for a few days and decided to confront her about it. I told her that I loved her too. Her response was that she didn't mean it that way, she likes boys and she only loves me as a friend. This had my head in a spin, as I was sure she had confessed her love to me that night. She looked very sincere when she said it.
I left it a few days & stupidly sent an angry text to her, telling her that she'd fucked my head up & broke my heart & that I never wanted to see her again & to stay the away from me. She responded & said that she didn't realize that I felt that way about her. She's sorry, but she's not going to tell me she loves me if she doesn't feel that way, but I'll always be her friend & when i feel better I should contact her.
Well I gave it another few days & dug the hole deeper, by telling her that I don't believe what she had said to me. I had saw the way she looked at me, the vibes and all her comments & that she did mean what she said that night, she's just running scared now. I should say, she has asked me twice when she was drunk to f=go back to her apartment, which i declined. She's always been very flirty with me, so I don't get why she would act like this towards me drunk then when she's sober say that she only sees me as a friend.
I now feel completely foolish & embarrassed. She has said that we should still be friends, but for now we need time apart, which I agreed to. I respect her wishes. If she just sees me as a friend then fair enough, but could anyone explain to me what she could have meant when she said that she really loved me, I was the perfect person, she'd turn lesbian for me and she wants to be with me? I'm struggling to understand what she meant by that. She just keeps saying she didn't mean it that way, but is there another way she could have meant that?
The problem is, I still really want to be friends with her, but now it just seems impossible. I know the best thing to do is to not contact her again and let the dust settle, but deep down i know that this friendship is over and I can't help, but feel responsible for it. I should never have said anything to her, but I just needed to know what she meant by that. Can anyobne help me out?