Post by Allen on Apr 7, 2015 4:00:28 GMT -6
Greetings LGBT community,
My name is Allen. I am a white, christian conservative male and I was having a conversation with a bleeding heart liberal heterosexual male who I consider a friend.
Our discussion was supposed to be centered around whether or not a person is born gay and/or whether or not it is a choice.
Now, let me be clear - I have no idea and that is partly why I am here.
My liberal friend is insistent that people are born gay and that they have no choice in the matter which I am open to that - I have already made it known that I don't know.
Now he being a liberal & me being a conservative already makes him believe that I am in opposition with him on everything even though I said I don't know and would like his thoughts on the matter. He asked me several questions as to when that magical moment occurred as to when I knew or decided I was attracted to the opposite sex. I answered all his questions explicitly and in great detail. However, he refused to answer my questions and told me to Google it so instead, I came here hoping someone could answer my questions.
I know of 5 people who are now gay (2 males & 3 females). All 5 of these individuals were heterosexual early in life, all dated, courted, married, and procreated with someone from the opposite sex. Then each in their early to mid 30's discovered that they were gay, came out, divorced their spouses and now live a gay lifestyle.
My questions to my liberal friend are 1) if these people were born gay and they had no choice, how did this occur (them dating, courting, marrying and procreating with a member of the opposite sex? Common sense tells me that they wouldn't have an interest in a person of the opposite sex if they were born gay let alone going thru all the trials and tribulations of a relationship that is time consuming with a person you are not naturally attracted to.
2) is society to blame for forcing people who might be gay into heterosexual relationships until they feel comfortable in coming out?
Btw - this is not made up. I really do know 5 people who were once heterosexuals and are now gay.
My beliefs I guess lean towards a nature vs. nurture type of situation. My thoughts are that depending on the situation, if a particular person (male or female) is in the right place at the right time and brings comfort to that person, that person may find that attractive regardless of sexuality.
It is unfortunate that because we differ politically that my liberal friend and I can't discuss this in a civil manner. He refuses to discuss this any further.
Any input or feedback would be greatly appreciated!
Thank you!
My name is Allen. I am a white, christian conservative male and I was having a conversation with a bleeding heart liberal heterosexual male who I consider a friend.
Our discussion was supposed to be centered around whether or not a person is born gay and/or whether or not it is a choice.
Now, let me be clear - I have no idea and that is partly why I am here.
My liberal friend is insistent that people are born gay and that they have no choice in the matter which I am open to that - I have already made it known that I don't know.
Now he being a liberal & me being a conservative already makes him believe that I am in opposition with him on everything even though I said I don't know and would like his thoughts on the matter. He asked me several questions as to when that magical moment occurred as to when I knew or decided I was attracted to the opposite sex. I answered all his questions explicitly and in great detail. However, he refused to answer my questions and told me to Google it so instead, I came here hoping someone could answer my questions.
I know of 5 people who are now gay (2 males & 3 females). All 5 of these individuals were heterosexual early in life, all dated, courted, married, and procreated with someone from the opposite sex. Then each in their early to mid 30's discovered that they were gay, came out, divorced their spouses and now live a gay lifestyle.
My questions to my liberal friend are 1) if these people were born gay and they had no choice, how did this occur (them dating, courting, marrying and procreating with a member of the opposite sex? Common sense tells me that they wouldn't have an interest in a person of the opposite sex if they were born gay let alone going thru all the trials and tribulations of a relationship that is time consuming with a person you are not naturally attracted to.
2) is society to blame for forcing people who might be gay into heterosexual relationships until they feel comfortable in coming out?
Btw - this is not made up. I really do know 5 people who were once heterosexuals and are now gay.
My beliefs I guess lean towards a nature vs. nurture type of situation. My thoughts are that depending on the situation, if a particular person (male or female) is in the right place at the right time and brings comfort to that person, that person may find that attractive regardless of sexuality.
It is unfortunate that because we differ politically that my liberal friend and I can't discuss this in a civil manner. He refuses to discuss this any further.
Any input or feedback would be greatly appreciated!
Thank you!
