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Post by birdboy on Apr 13, 2015 11:19:35 GMT -6
HI people. I got married last year to my husband and 2 months after the wedding he told me he is trans. We have been together 6 1/2 yrs and married almost now 12 months. I love him to pieces and I am totally behind him/her. Who I am to judge who he/she feels like he is. When he told me we were both really drunk and even in my drunken state I just held and hugged him and told its fine. I am not going anywhere I love you for you. Once your happy in your skin I am happy. But since he told me, I tried to talk to him again about it sober and I keep getting shut down and pushed back. Even emontionally and physically he has pulled back. We are married less then 12 months we should still be in the "honeymoon" period. Instead I feel so alone, sad, starting to get depressed. I tried to talk to him about how I am feeling and he just seems to be too busy. I don't know what I can do. I am not forcing him to do anything. If he wants to go ahead with the trans I am totally behind him. But he is pushing me away so much. I feel like I am at my widths end. I checked out consultants for trans people where we live I didn't tell him because I didn't want to push this on him. I know it has to be his decision and time when he is ready. I have tried and i have done everything I can. He does drag every so often and I know he has alot more confidence in that. I love going out with her when she is in drag. (sorry I class them as 2 seperate people). I can hold her hand we were are out with the drag.
I just don't know about been pushed away anymore. I don't want to walk away from our marriage after such a short time but i can't carry on feeling like this.
Would really appreciate it if someone could give me something, some sort of advice or help or something.
Thank you for taking the time to read this.
Birdboy
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Post by kristenmartinez on May 14, 2015 17:42:27 GMT -6
HI people. I got married last year to my husband and 2 months after the wedding he told me he is trans. We have been together 6 1/2 yrs and married almost now 12 months. I love him to pieces and I am totally behind him/her. Who I am to judge who he/she feels like he is. When he told me we were both really drunk and even in my drunken state I just held and hugged him and told its fine. I am not going anywhere I love you for you. Once your happy in your skin I am happy. But since he told me, I tried to talk to him again about it sober and I keep getting shut down and pushed back. Even emontionally and physically he has pulled back. We are married less then 12 months we should still be in the "honeymoon" period. Instead I feel so alone, sad, starting to get depressed. I tried to talk to him about how I am feeling and he just seems to be too busy. I don't know what I can do. I am not forcing him to do anything. If he wants to go ahead with the trans I am totally behind him. But he is pushing me away so much. I feel like I am at my widths end. I checked out consultants for trans people where we live I didn't tell him because I didn't want to push this on him. I know it has to be his decision and time when he is ready. I have tried and i have done everything I can. He does drag every so often and I know he has alot more confidence in that. I love going out with her when she is in drag. (sorry I class them as 2 seperate people). I can hold her hand we were are out with the drag.
I just don't know about been pushed away anymore. I don't want to walk away from our marriage after such a short time but i can't carry on feeling like this.
Would really appreciate it if someone could give me something, some sort of advice or help or something.
Thank you for taking the time to read this.
Birdboy It seems like you're feeling really confused, pretty lonely, and could use some support. We are here for you! Thank you so much for sharing what you're going through. It takes a lot of courage to speak your mind like you did. I noticed it's been some time since you first posted this - are things any better off? Have you been able to talk (sober) with your husband? From how you explained everything, it sounds like you just want to support him, but your husband may have a hard time coming to terms with the trans identity and what it may mean for your relationship. Sending you good vibes! Either way, you can share your thoughts here. |
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