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Post by Kaoru on Jun 30, 2015 20:12:19 GMT -6
Hi I'm having a really hard time with my crush on my best friend who is not attracted to me. I'm a bisexual female and haven't really ever been in a relationship or really liked anyone beyond a simple crush. I've been roommates with my best friend in the entire world and we've hung out nearly every day. I started to feel attracted to her after a few months of knowing her but kinda pushed my feelings aside and told myself to not rush anything and that I wasnt ready for any relationship anyways (suffer from severe depression and generalized anxiety disorder and just can't do relationship now). She's a close friend and I've shared so much with her and she's helped me through a lot. Recently I've gotten stronger feelings and started fantasizing about a life together and it just made me really happy. We've talked about sexual orientations before and she doesn't really know what she identifies with and hasn't been in a relationship either. She thinks she's asexual but at the same time shes Still questioning her sexual orientation and doesn't like labels.) I asked her if she could ever be attracted to me and she said she hasn't been attracted to a girl and that it's OK and we can still be friends. Even though I understand, I just feel so devastated cause in a way I let my mind think that there was a chance. I've been depressed and crying a lot. I kinda regret telling her but at the same time it was a good thing cause I can move on I guess. Shes afraid ill hate her for not felling the same way but i could never do that. Idk if anyone has any advice or support that could help? We both love each other as friends and I really don't want to lose her.. Any help?
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Post by amybee on Jun 15, 2016 23:52:30 GMT -6
Wow, I'm sorry I missed this. I wish I had something super solid and concrete to offer but the best thing is to do your best to maintain the friendship if at all possible. Before I moved a good friend and I confessed mutual crushes on each other and it still didn't work out. I'm not exactly sure why, but I do know it hurt like crazy because for weeks we were talking about how perfect we were for each other. Then we spent a day together and nothing. Then the big chill. At first I was angry. Well, at first I was confused and THEN I was angry. And very, very hurt. But in the end I realized the friendship was love, too. To make a long story short, I ended up moving to a totally different country and meeting someone else. And I still have my friend in my life. So it can happen if you just stick with it. I hope that helps at all!
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