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Post by Matt Stout on Apr 8, 2014 16:17:47 GMT -6
It is very important that you understand our online forums are a place we have created for others to go for advice when going through rough times in life. With that being said our online forums are a judgment free zone. By creating account or posting on the online forums you agree to be judgment free to anyone posting on the site. Anyone found judging others will be ban from the forums, and any future benefits from LGBTSupport.org. With that being said...
This thread is specifically designed to assist people who are facing challenges when coming out. Regardless if you have already come out, you are about to come out, or you are in the process of coming out.... Its always a challenging experience. Feel free to start new topics in this thread to get advice with your coming out situation, or to provide advice to others who are going through the coming out process.
~Matt
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Post by emj8234 on Aug 1, 2014 22:49:53 GMT -6
Hey Matt! I just came out to my best friend thanks to this site. Her reaction was amazing. I feel like a huge weight has been lifted off my shoulders.
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Post by Drew Steller on Aug 3, 2014 7:45:56 GMT -6
Congratulations emj! You have a true friend  They are really hard to come by. |
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Post by Matt Stout on Aug 3, 2014 12:31:23 GMT -6
Hey Matt! I just came out to my best friend thanks to this site. Her reaction was amazing. I feel like a huge weight has been lifted off my shoulders. So glad you were able to come out to her! I am glad you feel the relief! That is such a good feeling! Congrats! ~Matt |
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Post by rikke on Feb 8, 2015 21:51:30 GMT -6
Hey Matt I just came out to a couple of my friends and to some close family members, brothers and sister but still in the process to tell my parents guess I am afraid of their reaction..... my story as an lgbt has been very complicated to be honest but I have received a great amount of support from the people that I care and cares for me. So any advice or recommendations for how to tell my parents? they are both amazing persons and my mom even has an homosexual brother the tricky part is my father that well is a classic Mexican type of dad so I have the fear to make him get upset or something like that....
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Post by Matt Stout on Feb 15, 2015 20:39:12 GMT -6
Hey Matt I just came out to a couple of my friends and to some close family members, brothers and sister but still in the process to tell my parents guess I am afraid of their reaction..... my story as an lgbt has been very complicated to be honest but I have received a great amount of support from the people that I care and cares for me. So any advice or recommendations for how to tell my parents? they are both amazing persons and my mom even has an homosexual brother the tricky part is my father that well is a classic Mexican type of dad so I have the fear to make him get upset or something like that.... Since your mother has a homosexual brother, I would start by telling her. Simply because you have a better chance of her reacting positively to the situation. Once you talk to her about it and she is supportive of your sexual orientation, I would then talk to her about how to talk to your father about the situation. She is going to know better than anyone on how he will react, and how you should approach him with the topic of your sexual orientation. You said that you mother has a homosexual brother, and you did not indicate that your mother is anti-LGBT, so I would start with your mother, and then ask her how to approach your dad. I hope this helps a little, and I hope all goes well with you when it comes time to tell your parents! Let us know how it turns out! ~Matt |
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Post by Extremely Anonymous on Mar 29, 2015 17:27:38 GMT -6
When I came out, it was to a trusted friend. I hadn't slept properly for about 3 months worrying about who I should come out to, or if I should at all... However something happened that sent me into tears on Friday, I was by myself so no one came into my room to ask what was wrong (my nan is deaf and I was in her house that night) I texted my friend that something was on my mind a few hours earlier and he called me after I had calmed down, I answered the phone and when he asked me what was wrong, my throat locked up and I broke down, I could hardly speak so he told me to tell him over text, so I did, and if felt so bloody amazing to finally get it out, like a huge weight had been lifted from my shoulders, he said that it didn't change a thing and he still thought of me the same. For the first time in ages I have slept properly... However, my current dilemma is: should I tell my parents, or more friends now, being the only non religious person in a family consisting of very strong Catholics and one Buddhist, I'm worried about telling them, should I just wait till I'm older or tell them now, I'm confused but I'm going to get through this, one way or another. However, if you are going to come out, come out to a close and trusted friend first, then your family. Trust me, it's easier Thank you for reading xoxo  ??❤️ |
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Post by Drew Steller on Mar 30, 2015 8:57:39 GMT -6
Dear Extremely Anonymous Guest:
Thank you for sharing your story with us. Coming out is never easy, especially if you're young and grew up in a religious family. But what I have discovered over the years is that a person's religion doesn't have a whole lot to do with how he or she would react to an LGBT person coming out to him or her. I've witnessed the most religious of fathers accepting their transgender children without even a second of hesitation, and I've seen loving atheist mothers turn their backs on their favourite children who turned out to be homosexuals at the drop of a hat. Humans are funny that way, and to some degree, all of us have the ability to tell if someone is going accept us for who we are, especially if we have spent our whole lives getting to know that someone. When it comes to your family, you are the only one who knows how they would react to your coming out. The same goes for your friends. But the important thing here is that you have come out to a friend. That took a lot of courage, whether you know it or not. Many LGBT people stay in their closets their whole lives, denying themselves their basic human right to love and be loved, and they become bitter, or worse, they take their own lives when things got too difficult, because they have no real friends to talk to about their pain, to save them, and they leave the world never knowing what it is like to be loved for who they really are. You have taken that first and most difficult step by coming out to a friend, and by doing that, you have acknowledged who you really are as a human being. What you do next, whether telling your parents and family, or your other friends, it will not matter how they react to your coming out. If they choose to hurt you, although you may bleed momentarily, you will recover faster than you can imagine, and if they choose to accept and love you, you will feel that much more whole as the person you were born to be.
Best of luck over there EAG.
With much love,
Drew
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Post by Extremely Anonymous on Mar 30, 2015 15:21:49 GMT -6
Dear Extremely Anonymous Guest: Thank you for sharing your story with us. Coming out is never easy, especially if you're young and grew up in a religious family. But what I have discovered over the years is that a person's religion doesn't have a whole lot to do with how he or she would react to an LGBT person coming out to him or her. I've witnessed the most religious of fathers accepting their transgender children without even a second of hesitation, and I've seen loving atheist mothers turn their backs on their favourite children who turned out to be homosexuals at the drop of a hat. Humans are funny that way, and to some degree, all of us have the ability to tell if someone is going accept us for who we are, especially if we have spent our whole lives getting to know that someone. When it comes to your family, you are the only one who knows how they would react to your coming out. The same goes for your friends. But the important thing here is that you have come out to a friend. That took a lot of courage, whether you know it or not. Many LGBT people stay in their closets their whole lives, denying themselves their basic human right to love and be loved, and they become bitter, or worse, they take their own lives when things got too difficult, because they have no real friends to talk to about their pain, to save them, and they leave the world never knowing what it is like to be loved for who they really are. You have taken that first and most difficult step by coming out to a friend, and by doing that, you have acknowledged who you really are as a human being. What you do next, whether telling your parents and family, or your other friends, it will not matter how they react to your coming out. If they choose to hurt you, although you may bleed momentarily, you will recover faster than you can imagine, and if they choose to accept and love you, you will feel that much more whole as the person you were born to be. Best of luck over there EAG. With much love, Drew Aw thank you so much! I told another friend today and that also felt amazing! Thanks for your advice btw I am going to tell my family soon, thank you I'm gonna make an account here and extremely anonymous will be my name XD |
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Post by domo358 on Apr 5, 2015 20:48:32 GMT -6
I don't even know where to begin.
My family taught me from about the time I was in 5th grade that homosexuality was wrong. I figured out about halfway into middle school I was gay. I feel like I won't ever be able to come out to my parents, ir my religious extended family. My brother got dragged into their conservative mindset, and I don't know how I could ever come out. I'm first year high school right now.
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