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Post by Deleted on Apr 28, 2014 7:12:56 GMT -6
But yes, I can feel for you, I'm in the same spot. Although, He has not been my first, he has made me the happiest and I don't want to lose him, but I know that if this is his final decision, things WILL get better. That is my situation! He even said to me he "needs to be alone to figure out who he is" OH PLEASE! - I don't think you can ever truly stay friends with exes. Well for me, I have a really good memory and I'll always remember the way he made me feel when he ended it. I think you should make him give you the money for the Cher tickets, going with him will mess up your head. It's hard because even though I love him immensely still, if he turned around now and said "I'm sorry, I want you back" or even in months time, I wouldn't be able too, because I'm always going to be paranoid that he will have doubts again and the exact will happen. Even though we had so many beautiful memories together that I want more of. |
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Post by lordcurtis on Apr 28, 2014 23:52:58 GMT -6
That is my situation! He even said to me he "needs to be alone to figure out who he is" OH PLEASE! - I don't think you can ever truly stay friends with exes. Well for me, I have a really good memory and I'll always remember the way he made me feel when he ended it. I think you should make him give you the money for the Cher tickets, going with him will mess up your head. It's hard because even though I love him immensely still, if he turned around now and said "I'm sorry, I want you back" or even in months time, I wouldn't be able too, because I'm always going to be paranoid that he will have doubts again and the exact will happen. Even though we had so many beautiful memories together that I want more of. Tell me about it! I'm about to that point to where I am done. I just contacted him today about a show I am in this weekend, and he said that he doesn't think he can come and that because we aren't together it isn't a priority anymore. He also, said he doesn't want to see me soon because he doesn't want me to say "we can fix this". So yeah today has probably sealed the deal. NOOOOPE Also, I feel as if this now belongs in the relationship thread. |
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Post by Deleted on Apr 29, 2014 3:17:31 GMT -6
That is my situation! He even said to me he "needs to be alone to figure out who he is" OH PLEASE! - I don't think you can ever truly stay friends with exes. Well for me, I have a really good memory and I'll always remember the way he made me feel when he ended it. I think you should make him give you the money for the Cher tickets, going with him will mess up your head. It's hard because even though I love him immensely still, if he turned around now and said "I'm sorry, I want you back" or even in months time, I wouldn't be able too, because I'm always going to be paranoid that he will have doubts again and the exact will happen. Even though we had so many beautiful memories together that I want more of. Tell me about it! I'm about to that point to where I am done. I just contacted him today about a show I am in this weekend, and he said that he doesn't think he can come and that because we aren't together it isn't a priority anymore. He also, said he doesn't want to see me soon because he doesn't want me to say "we can fix this". So yeah today has probably sealed the deal. NOOOOPE Also, I feel as if this now belongs in the relationship thread. Yeah maybe it should be ha. I was going to put it in the relationship thread but it was more about me being utterly depressed since the break-up and how numb I feel rather than relationship problems since it's now ended completely. But it's turned into relationship problems haha. Yeah my ex was the same! He broke up with me OVER THE PHONE. And I said I refuses to be one of those people who were dumped on the phone. So I made him travel to sew me (which is about 2 hours on the train) Unfortunately, I was an idiot and did a little begging  Urgh I hate myself for it. But he ended up being more horrible to me. |
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Post by Deleted on Apr 29, 2014 12:34:22 GMT -6
Lordcurtis, I can't offer any relationship advise but I can say. I have seen Cher 3 times, what an awesome concert. She is fantastic and looks great! Take someone else. Things will get better
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Post by n8vdude on Apr 29, 2014 17:49:06 GMT -6
Having been around the block so much that I can give tours, both personally and involved in other's break ups... believe me, it is THEIR loss... It's no use trying to mend things when there's quite literally not much left to mend. Better to grow from the experience and know you're better than that. More deserving of someone (who IS out there) who will be there for you in any way possible. When you meet someone who puts you first, as a priority in their life, because they just can't imagine a world without you, then you'll have what you're looking for. The one thing I can say in literally every time I've witness two people coming together and it truly sticking for the long haul - they never saw it coming. It just happens. The thing is, you gotta put yourself out there or it never will find you. But don't actively seek it - trust that it will discover you when you least expect it. And it will be over the bloody moon brilliant when it does.
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Post by lordcurtis on Apr 29, 2014 23:15:12 GMT -6
Kaycee, in relation to you breaking down all the time and being depressed. If you find that it takes over your life and you feel as if you cant function properly, call your doctor. They may put you on an anti-depressant or recommend a counselor. Personally for me, when my first boyfriend abused me it triggered anxiety problems that had been passed down to me by my father. They probably would have shown up eventually, but the trauma kicked it in and I suffered for months. I am now on a daily pill that keeps me from over thinking things, freaking out about everything, and dwelling. I am a much happier person without the "he's pilled out" effect hah!
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Post by Deleted on Apr 30, 2014 15:00:08 GMT -6
Yeah, maybe lordcurtis , but I don't know, contacting my doctor seems pre-emptive for me yet. I mean I've always been a strong person, people think I'm a lot stronger than I am. it's just hard because I'm a difficult person to love (this isn't me being melodramtic by the way, very realistic) I've always been told that. I've had so many best friends who just walk away from me because they've had too much, I've had guys who I've been emotionally close too who leave me because I won't sleep with them so soon or I'm just being "difficult" it's hard. I try to have faith that I'll find someone eventually, sooner rather than later hopefully, but at the same time I'm realistic in the fact that I'm not very "wanted" in the gay community when it comes to pure romance. I don't know, maybe I'm overthinking and I need that pill! |
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Post by Matt Stout on Apr 30, 2014 15:21:30 GMT -6
Kaycee, In regards to you breaking down all the time and being depressed... I know you may not want to call the doctor, which is understandable. However when I went through a really bad breakup, someone actually suggested that I go to Wal-Mart and buy "5-HTP" I was a little skeptical but I was going through frequent break downs, and being super depressed. So I figured... Okay, I'll try it. It can't really get any worse... right? So I went to walmart... I spent less than $10 ... I took 2 of the pills (as directed), and I did (after like 30-45min) start to see a difference. It was not a "Cure all, make everything better" pill. But it really helped me. Check it out: 5-HTP It might help you! Let me know if it does! ~Matt |
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Post by lordcurtis on Apr 30, 2014 21:08:36 GMT -6
I have never heard of 5-HTP before. But like I said, my anxiety and depression is genetic and was triggered by my trauma. That probably is not the case for you. However, seeking medical help is not a weakness by any means. With my anxiety I can not help it, it is a chemical imbalance in my brain making it hard for me to come back out of depression. I am a very strong person as well, just need a prescription to make sure that i'm not imbalanced  This 5-HTP may be just what you need to help you through this! |
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Post by Deleted on May 28, 2014 8:42:02 GMT -6
UPDATE:So, my ex messaged me the other day, telling me how "sorry" he was, how much regret he has and how he wants me to still be in his life as friends and "see what happens". Literally, I read these messages and I have never been happier in my entire life. Not because I want him back, but because it's great to see the man you loved and the man who abandoned you feel guilty for it. Maybe that makes me a sociopath or something but I felt like I could finally move on. as for the 5HTP, I've been trying it for a few weeks now and it is making a subtle difference!  thanks for the recommendation
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Urgh I hate myself for it. But he ended up being more horrible to me. 
This 5-HTP may be just what you need to help you through this! 
thanks for the recommendation